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Clutter Control

Natalie Weinstein is President of Natalie Weinstein Design Associates, The Natalie Weinstein Home 
Decorating Club and Uniquely 
Natalie, a quality 
consignment boutique. 
For inquiries call: 631-862-6198.

    Designers know that no decorating can be accomplished until a home has a “place” for everything and “everything is in its place.” But designers are only a small portion of the population and the problem of “too much stuff” and the lack of ability to control or organize it has grown to epic proportions. There is now a huge national organization of professional organizers to help people solve this problem, as well as countless closet and garage organizers. 
     What is it that makes us hold on to our things or buy more than we need? How can we change the way we view our things and for that matter, can we actually change? Clearly the problem 
lies beyond our stuff and with ourselves. Why do we keep things? What is our emotional attachment? Lots of questions- some hard to answer. 
     It seems to me there are 2 categories of people who need help in this area. The first can be taught by example and a plan. (Those are the ones designers and organizers can help in very little time.) They are either busy, overwhelmed, or just never had the organizing gene in their DNA. In other words, it doesn’t come naturally. No worries, though. In a few short sessions, the plan is in place, the system starts to work and people learn to sort, purge and give away. If they stick with the program and don’t go on unnecessary shopping sprees, they will conquer their problem and set a good example for other family members, especially children. If they occasionally fall off the wagon, they don’t need too much time to get back on. 
     The second group of people have a tougher time changing. For whatever their reasons, (usually deep-seated) they can’t part with anything, saving everything from clothing to furniture to papers. They become defensive and generally inspire ill feelings in those around them. Often times, this problem spills over into every aspect of life and relationships. In its worst scenario, it creates homes such as those seen on current TV shows like, “The Hoarder”. 
     According to experts, this is a serious condition that needs counseling, patience and understanding and is not often successful if attempted to be accomplished by family members. Professional organizers have a better shot, but often professional counseling is needed where the person is guided and encouraged to change while respecting their dignity. Medication such as antidepressants might be required and cognitive behavior therapy or group therapy may be suggested. 
     It’s clear by now that cluttering from its most extreme to various lower levels  is not healthy, causes time to be wasted on finding things and can promote safety issues. It’s early in 2020 and if you’ve dropped the ball, reconsider the flip side of trying again – as hard as it may seem. Start with 1 small task: a drawer, closet, pantry, shelf. Order is contagious. If 
you keep going, the rewards will impel you to go farther. Remember — one – just one. 
     Mark the date for a “free happening” with Natalie on Clutter Control and Organization, Sunday, April 26th at 176 2nd St., St James, NY 11780. Refreshments will be served. Please RSVP. 
    (631) 862-6198. Hope to see you there!

 

How To improve Your Child’s Self-Esteem

Connie Henriquez H.H.C. is a Teen Life Coach who teaches kids & teens how to overcome anxiety, self-doubt and improve  their self-esteem. For more information, call (516) 340-0378 or check out her website at startlovinglife.com. 

The only problem with the children I work with is that they are defeating themselves in their own mind. That’s it. By doing this, they are slowly, over time, killing their self-esteem which negatively affects their self-image and impacts EVERY aspect of their life.

When children lack self-esteem they experience:

    •    Shyness
    •    Sadness
    •    Stress
    •    Anxiety 
    •    Mood Swings
    •    Anger Outbursts

Does this sound like your child?

All of the above are fixable when you address the root issue: your child’s self-esteem.

Why your child lacks self-esteem? 
There can be many reasons, but below is a common example of my experiences with the many kids I work with. 

Scenario: 1
Growing up, children are NOT taught to LOVE themselves or LOVE life. Instead, at an early age, your child’s “intelligence” is measured by performance in every subject at school. Therefore, if they did not excel academically, your child at age 6 (or whatever age) was automatically deemed “NOT smart”. 

Scenario: 2
Conversely, if your child was lucky enough to excel in EVERY subject, then your child learned validation by manufactured benchmarks, such as grades. This created the pressure to perform in order to continue their validation of worthiness, all of which is exhausting, stressful and causes that dreadful “perfectionism” bug.

So, regardless of whether your child fell into either scenario 1 or 2, that experience has shaped their self-image. 

Now, should it have? No, of course not. Instead, we must teach our children that their worthiness comes from the inside and has NOTHING to do with outside accolades or other’s opinions of them (that includes grades and everything else). 
    But unfortunately, the current reality tends to create a platform for your child at an early age, forcing them to become very self-critical.

For example, self-critical thoughts based on the above scenarios include:

(Scenario 1) Does not excel academically:

    •    I am not good enough.
    •    I am not smart enough.
    •    There is something wrong with me.
    •    I don’t fit in.
    •    My parents are disappointed in me.

(Scenario 2) Does excel academically:

    •    In order to be good, I MUST do well.
    •    If I get a bad grade, I am disappointed in myself.
    •    I must be the best in order to make my parents happy.
    •    I receive positive attention from my parents only when I do         well, so in order to feel loved, I must continue to do well.

The list goes on…

Since I’ve worked with children, I see these scenarios all the time. Your children put undue pressure on themselves to perform, fit in and make you, the parent, happy. Let’s face it,  there is no wonder why kids’ anxiety and depression are at an all-time high. And, just remember, the above scenario is pertaining to schoolwork and grades! There’s also the social aspect that involves making friends, succeeding in sports, the pressures of social media…and much more!

So, what’s the solution?

It’s simple. Kids must learn how to love themselves AND how to start loving life, regardless of EVERYTHING ELSE. They must know that the only opinion of them that matters, is their own. So, when they improve their opinions of themselves (their self-image), by focusing on their positive, unique qualities, they WILL feel better. 

When your child starts loving life, life will love them back…
Imagine that?

 

Music City USA… 3 Melodious Days in NASHVILLE

Claudia Fenner is a writer, photographer and travel enthusiast from Dix Hills. Have any travel questions you would like answered? Email her at travelingclaudia@gmail.com. 
Happy Travels!

“Carnegie Hall was real fabulous, but you know, it ain't as big as the Grand Ole Opry.”  Patsy Cline

    Grab your boots and your beer (if you are over 21) and head down to Nashville for a fantastic few day getaway.  United, Delta, American and Southwest all operate nonstop flights from the New York area to Nashville.  BNA is located only 10 miles east of downtown making it a quick and easy ride whether you rent a car or not.  Since it was a family vacation, I decided the best way to be together was to stay at the Homewood Suites Nashville/Brentwood.  Located about 12 miles south of downtown, with free parking, we comfortably fit in a 2-bedroom, 2-bathroom suite that included breakfast, and even a light dinner during the week.
     Flying down, we were lucky enough to have met one of the friendliest Delta flight attendants who had hailed from Nashville.  She happily gave us a laundry list of her favorite things to do and places to eat.  We followed them to the letter and they were awesome.
     On our first day, we took a one-hour, double decker sighteeing tour, run by Grayline which gave us a lovely overview of the city. The heart of Nashville is Broadway which is lined with bars, clubs and music venues that seem to run 24/7.  The Country Music Hall of Fame is right there and so is the Ryman Auditorium which housed the Grand Ole Opry from 1943 to 1974.
     Next up, was the best Southern meal we had ever eaten, from Monell’s, a Nashville staple since 1995.  Served family style, the idea is to make new friends at the communal tables where you pass along dishes of fried chicken, green beans, cheese grits, cornbread, biscuits and gravy, pot roast, ribs plus a drink and dessert.  The menu changes daily and that’s just one of the many reasons why they’re so famous. 
     Since it was holiday time, we spent an evening at Cheekwood, a former mansion turned botanical garden, west of the city.  Each night, Cheekwood glows with the magic of the season. Their one-mile loop is filled with over one million lights, 500,000 light strings, dozens of photo ops and more.
     On our last day, we spent hours at Opryland. Located just a few minutes from the airport, Opryland is home to the Grand Ole Opry, as well as the largest non-gaming hotel/convention complex in the USA.  There are nine acres of indoor gardens, cascading waterfalls and an indoor river with its own Delta flatboats beneath the glass roof. 
   Our trip was short but very sweet and satisfying… just like their tea!

 

Valentine’s Day 2020 Fashion

Anna is currently a student at Fairfield University. She loves reading, the beach, and iced peach green tea lemonades!

    Regardless of whether your Valentine’s Day plans involve a fun date night or a cozy night  in with your closest girlfriends, there are many outfits to choose from, so you can spend the day in style. Here is the ultimate guide to dressing for every kind of Valentine’s Day plans.
Intimate Date Night
    The classic Valentine’s Day date usually consists of a nice intimate dinner followed by a night of dancing or a movie. When dressing for a romantic outing, you cannot go wrong with a knitted sweater dress and boots; it offers the perfect mix of comfort and sex appeal. If you want to make a statement, opt for a puff-sleeved mini, satin or velvet dress with a vibrant pattern or color. That will grab their attention as soon as you walk in the room.  
Adventurous Date Night
    If your Valentine’s Day festivities involve some exciting plans like attending a concert, ice skating, or bowling, we have you covered. Spending the night doing an activity that both you and your partner enjoy will make the holiday even more special. Wearing printed pants paired with a sweater (or cape) and ankle boots is the perfect clothing option for an exciting, unconventional date. Opt for a more casual outfit to go with your plans such as, mom jeans with a cropped sweater. Or, combat boots and a trendy coat. Comfort is key when planning an adventurous outing. 
Night Out with the Girls
    Sometimes the people you want to spend this holiday with are your closest girlfriends. Getting dressed up for a night filled with amazing food and dancing is the perfect way to celebrate. Depending on whether your night is spent laughing over a nice dinner or drinks at a local bar, jeans with a nice blouse and heels are always a hit for a casual night out with the girls. You can also opt for a stylish but comfortable outfit such as, a breezy jumpsuit or a satin midi skirt with a loose sweater. There are many options to choose from when planning your outfit for this specific outing.  
Night In with the Girls
    Another fun way to spend Valentine’s Day is by having a self-care night with your girls. A night in filled with movies, take-out, and pampering is a fun, casual way to spend this holiday with your friends. Comfort is key for a girls night in, so break out your favorite pajamas or loungewear. If you want to look extra cute for those Instagram selfies, be sure to order matching festive pink or red pajamas for you and your crew.  

 

Comforting… Wild Cream of Mushroom Soup


Denise Gianatasio is a Northport Village resident, freelance writer and licensed agent at Signature Premier Properties in Northport. Please feel free to contact her for any advice you may need at dishinwithdenise@yahoo.com.

    Add some warmth to this cold February and make a powerhouse mushroom soup—complex and well-rounded. Or, with Valentine’s Day around the corner, try something different and make this soup for your significant other.     
    Mushrooms are edible and delectable fungi that can keep you healthy throughout the year, especially in the winter. They are known to boost many vital components of your immune system and prime your immune cells to be more responsive to future attacks, inflammation and infections.  
    Unfortunately, mushrooms have a bad rap because of what they look like and most people tend to overlook them, when in fact, they are flavorful and offer endless culinary possibilities. Smooth, luxurious and earthy, when cooked, this overlooked fungi tantalizes the taste buds with something called, Umami. Umami is the fifth element of taste after sweet, salty, bitter, and sour. Not only does it cater to your taste buds, it’s loaded with vitamin D, full of beta-glucans (a fiber beneficial for blood sugar and cholesterol management) and has strong anti-cancer effects. The best benefit of all? It contains ZERO calories! 
    No need to worry about ruining your New Year’s resolution. If you’re trying to stick with your 2020 vision, adjust the recipe accordingly and experiment with substitutes. Want to cut the butter? Use fat free ½ and ½ or fat free broth. Voila! Boost your senses and your health. 
    If my best friend Frank was still with us, he would try to find the rare European white truffle – the world’s most expensive mushroom (priced at $3,600 per pound!). (If I have, I’ll add a few drops of white truffle oil to this recipe.) He’d also say, “Ok, Nip cut the Bull and Lets Eat! Bon Appétit!” Xoxo Denise

Ingredients
5-6 cups a variety of dried and fresh mushrooms (dried mushroom variety should sit in a bowl with boiling water for 30 minutes to soften)
2  potatoes, peeled, diced
½ cup half & half
½ cup of Sherry (for: sweet) or Vermouth (for: dry)
1 T Soy sauce
2 T Butter
2 T Extra virgin olive oil
1 Vidalia onion, diced
2 T plus 1 T fresh thyme, fresh parsley, and fresh chives for garnish
4 cups of chicken or vegetable broth
¼ cup flour
Splash of white wine
Kosher salt and fresh black pepper to taste
A few drops of white truffle oil (optional)

Boil potatoes and drain. Also, prepare mushrooms.
Melt butter with olive oil in pan. Add salt, pepper, potatoes and mushrooms; cook for a few minutes. 
Add broth, soy sauce and fresh herbs; bring to a boil, then reduce heat and cook on medium heat for approximately 10 minutes. 
Stir in flour and mix, then deglaze pan with alcohol. Remove from heat and blend 1 ½ cups in blender (or food processor). 
Add back into pot and add half & half. 
Garnish with buttery croutons, parsley, thyme, chives and pepper. Enjoy!

 

Chicken Bellagio


Tiffany Cohen has been cooking since she was 12 years old, and has a blog called Whatcha Cooking Good 
Looking, which showcases her love for food and creating great memories with family and friends. Contact her at 
whatchacookinggoodlooking@gmail.com.

    Let’s change up the Valentine’s Day scene this year.  Yes, if you are attached, you should celebrate LOVE with your significant other.  But, ladies, what about the love you feel for your best gal pals?  I mean, they are there for you throughout the year and they GET IT (you know what I’m talking about). Why not celebrate the love and appreciation of your friendship also!?
    So, this month, I’m bringing you my best Galentine’s Day dinner.  One that is so pretty to look at it (your girls will totally appreciate the way the pink and green go so well together!), easy to make, and absolutely delicious to eat.  If you’ve ever been to Cheesecake Factory, this is a little spin on their dish (of the same name), so you know it’s going to be extra fabulous.  Let’s get into how to make this beauty of a dish…Happy Galentine’s Day!

Ingredients

Pesto:
• 4 cups basil leaves, lightly packed
• 1 cup Pecorino Romano cheese
• 2 garlic cloves
• 1/3 cup olive oil, separated
• A little salt

Cream Sauce:
• 1 cup light or heavy cream
• 3 tablespoons butter
• 1/2 cup Pecorino Romano cheese, separated
• Salt and Pepper

Remaining Ingredients:
• 1 box of spaghetti
• Cooked chicken cutlets (see my website to learn how to make the BEST chicken cutlets)
• Baby Arugula
• Very thinly sliced ham
• Pecorino Romano cheese for serving

Instructions:
Put up a large pot of water for the spaghetti.  Preheat the oven to 350° to reheat the chicken.
   Make the Pesto:  Add the basil, cheese, garlic, a small amount of oil, and a little salt to a food processor. Cover and lock the processor and start it up!  Drizzle in 1/4 cup of olive oil through the spout at the top of the processor as it’s going.  Continue the processor until everything comes together and is fully chopped.  Set aside.  (This can be made ahead of time and stored in the fridge).
   Make the Cream Sauce:  Add the heavy cream and butter to a medium pot and cook over medium-high heat.  Bring to an almost boil.  Lower the heat to a simmer for about a minute or two.  Add salt and pepper–light on the salt, heavier on the pepper.  Whisk in 6 tablespoons of cheese.  Set aside.  (Cannot be made ahead of time).
   Add the pasta to the pot and reheat the chicken in the oven, if you haven’t already. 
   In a small pot over medium heat, add a tablespoon of olive oil. Add the pesto and heat. The pesto should be a bit loose, not chunky.  Add enough olive oil a little at a time until the pesto is on the looser side. Set aside.
   Slice the chicken as seen in the photos above.  Drain the pasta completely.  Add the rest of the Pecorino Romano from the cream sauce ingredients.  Then add the cream sauce. Combine well.
   Assembly: Take some spaghetti and add it to the plate. Top it with small spoonfuls of pesto. Lay the sliced chicken on top of the pesto and pasta. Top with a handful of baby arugula and 1-2 slices of ham. Serve with Pecorino Romano.  Enjoy!

I would love to see pictures of your Galentine’s Day dinner!  Send me your photos via email at whatchacookinggoodlooking@gmail.com or tag me on Instagram @whatcha_cooking_good_looking.  
For more delicious recipes and cooking tips from Tiffany, head on over to www.whatchacookinggoodlooking.com 

 

How Sweet Is Your Soul?

 
    Sweet Soul Bakery, a plant based, gluten free bakery, is the sweetest addition to come to the town of St. James. Having had their store’s grand opening in November, their mission since founded in 2017, has been to lower the bar to eating healthier as to make it easy and enjoyable for everyone. Also, to create vegan, gluten-free food as not only a healthier alternative to other food options, but delicious, satisfying and appealing to vegans and non-vegans alike.
    At Sweet Soul Bakery, they offer a variety of tasty treats including cheesecakes, donuts, cupcakes, blondies, brownies, raspberry crumb bars, energy bites, soups and more; all of which nicely pair with everything from their espresso machine. They use only the highest quality of ingredients, like almond butter, oats (gluten free), monk fruit, maple syrup, agave and organic whenever possible—no preservatives or artificial ingredients.
    According to co-owners Michael Strahl and Pat Charity, who met at Simplicity Yoga, “Our goal is to make food as nutritious as it can be and still be delicious.” They started with a sampling to make sure people loved their products. After which, they turned to selling at local farmer’s markets. Then, wholesaling to stores like Tula Kitchen, Batata Cafe and The Purple Elephant after opening up their own brick and mortar space.
    As the one who develops the recipes, Charity, a cancer survivor, believes that cleaning up her diet has contributed to her great health today. Serving 100% plant based vegan, and gluten free products is what Sweet Soul Bakery is known for. But, what exactly does it mean to live a vegan or plant based life?
    Veganism is a moral philosophy that promotes minimizing the exploitation of animals wherever practicable. It’s a lifestyle which seeks to avoid meat, dairy, eggs and any type of animal derived product. In the same way vegans stop eating animals, they abstain from forms of entertainment that exploit animals, as well as, wearing wool or leather. On the other hand, a whole food plant based diet involves eating only whole plants in their least processed forms. So, while it benefits the earth and animals the main goal of being whole food plant based is in fact, to be healthy.

 

Ways to RECHARGE Your Relationship with Your Spouse or Partner


Kathy Horowitz co-facilitates a monthly women’s writer’s group at the Life Center in Huntington. Her work has appeared in The Long Islander, Long Island Woman, Calyx, Blue Unicorn, and Seventh Quarry. Kathy offers freelance writing, editing, and proofreading services.
(kahorowitz@gmail.com) • www.kathyhorowitz.com.  
    As batteries need to be recharged, so does a loving relationship.  Many of us fall into the same daily routine with one another, but this Valentine’s Day, how can that special feeling be rejuvenated?  Here are several ideas to jumpstart the New Year and Valentine’s Day for you and your loved one.
    • Walk on the wild side.  Are you beachgoers, mountain and trail hikers, or neighborhood walkers? Try to change your routine and instead of walking the same neighborhood blocks, seek out a hiking trail or water venue that neither of you have ever visited. “Hiking Long Island” (Lee McAllister, 2001) has lots of trail and park information for Nassau and Suffolk counties. Walking and talking will create a feeling of togetherness, especially when children or other distractions are absent. Collect special shells or rocks and add them to your memories.
    • Try your hand at a craft or paint project. There are many places on Long Island where you can work at your talents.  Notice I say work, but the truth is, isn’t it fun to do something that you may have not done since childhood? Check out Plaster Funcraft  (plasterfuncraft.com) for one-of-a-kind plaster pieces, or Paint a Piece (paintapiecepottery.com) for pottery, candle making, and glass fusing. Or, book a paint night. Go to paintnite.com, for dates and locations. It’s fun for all ages!
    • Go rock climbing.  Just like a mosh pit, somebody has to be there to support you when you climb.  Support builds trust, which builds on your love for one another. Island Rock in Plainview is a popular destination where single or monthly classes are available (islandrock.net). Check Groupon for the latest deals.
    • Tired of cooking for your mate?  Although there’s nothing as special as breakfast in bed, why not try a new Happy Hour destination? Or, if you’re really adventurous, pack a picnic basket (or bag) and enjoy it by the fire or, weather permitting, in your favorite park.
    • Create your own Valentine’s Day gift.  Instead of relying on gifts from personalizationmall.com or “great buys” from Groupon or Amazon, make your partner a DVD of the previous year together, or make them a mixed CD (yes, I’m probably the only one who still listens to CD’s). If you can crochet, knit, or are good at woodworking, why not make a handmade gift that your loved one will treasure forever.
    Just as there is more than one way of honoring your partner, there is also more than one way of doing things with or for them. Thinking outside the box this year may be your best gift.  And, it never hurts to present flowers or a box of chocolates to your loved one. Happy Valentine’s Day to you and yours!

 

Valentine Gift Guide


by Katherine Andrianas

    Valentine’s Day is not just about the flowers, chocolates, and jewelry, but more about showing appreciation for the ones you love. Whether you’re newlyweds, longtime lovers or recently dating, there are so many great gift ideas out there. So, if you’re not sure of what to do or get, check out what we’ve come up with… it will help make this Valentine’s Day special!

Gifts for HER / HIM
1. Whether she’s going on a long-haul flight or getting that much needed beauty sleep on the go, buy her the Slip Beauty Sleep To Go! Travel Set. This luxurious travel pillow, travel pillowcase and matching sleep mask set, made with the highest grade (6A) long fiber mulberry silk and non-toxic dyes, will have her dreaming in no time! 2. If she is into beauty, get her the TATCHA Kissu Lip Mask. This loving, leave-on jelly treatment is enriched with Squalane, Japanese peach (which took a year to re-harvest!), three-rose extract and Camellia Oil. Not only does it rescue lips from dehydration, long-wear color and harsh climates but it’s key to locking in moisture for smooth, plump, peach-kissed lips! tatcha.com or sephora.com 3. The Charlotte Tilbury Pillow Talk Instant Eye Palette is the latest and greatest to hit the beauty market. Featuring 12 new shades and divided into four buildable/magical eye looks, it’s meant for any time of day or occasion: day, desk, date and dream. The sensational, best-selling, instant eye palette ($75), can be found at charlottetilbury.com/us. 4. Diptyque celebrates Valentine’s Day with their Paris en Fleur Scented Candle.  It’s the smell of roses like those of The Garden of Bagatelle or that you’d find in a flower market. An aromatic delight which brings out a certain spring emotion—scents of fresh chypre and rose petals blended with earthy patchouli. You can find it at diptyqueparis.com (70G/$38USD or 190G/$74USD). 5. What man doesn’t love to smell nice? The One for Men Eau de Parfum Intense by Dolce & Gabbana brings a striking new intensity to the beauty market. Intensely masculine, fascinating yet authentic, it’s a scent of extremes (warm neroli golden facets with deep black leather in an enigmatic ex­­­pression of olfactory chiaroscuro). 6. For the rugged guy who cleans up nicely, the Wild Man Grooming Kit from uncommongoods.com offers an abundance of great-smelling products. It comes with a Bod Butter for moisturizing post-shower, an After Shave for soothing and hydrating, a Man Mist which captures scents of the deep woods, fresh-cut lumber and masculinity, plus a cold-processed/handcrafted soap. 7. Who said flowers are just for women? Gift the man in your life a flower bouquet of 100% Edible Beef Jerky Roses. Presented inside a beer mug or stylish box, these manly bouquets by the ½ or full dozen will be a huge hit. Shop manlymanco.com for flowers that’ve never tasted so good.

Gifts for COUPLES
1. The What I Love About You
books are the perfect combination of sweet and personal. With fill-in-the-blank heartfelt responses, it’s a sentimental keepsake for both men and women. Available at amazon.com, urbanouttfitters.com, & more. 2. Something everyone will love is the Special Location Framed Map. Whether it’s the place you met or where he asked you to marry him, it’s meant to represent your special day. Available on modernmapart.com, personalize it by adding names, a date or quote and select among a poster, canvas or frame. 3. If you’re not looking to go out, cook a yummy meal together with the Let’s Stay In cookbook. The book includes over 120 recipes, (breakfast, lunch, dinner and dessert), designed to nourish the ones you love. Available at barnesandnobles.com, target.com and most other retailers. 4. With the Date Night Bucket List, you won’t ever have to worry about what to do for date night. From stargazing in a secluded place to visiting a new museum, the ideas are endless. Or, looking to spice up date night a little more? Play a game of Kinky Truth or Dare, which lets you experiment with seductive challenges and blush-worthy questions. Uncommongoods.com 5. For the couple who loves a good TV series, the Binge-Watching Survival Kit is a must. For just $20, you’ll be saying Namaste on the couch all weekend long. The 18-piece kit comes with all your necessary essentials: socks, coasters, snack clips, face cleansing wipes, folding sporks, stain remover plus much more. Available at pinchprovisions.com 6. ­Does your Valentine like beer, wine or cider? Save the date for the annual, Be Mine Valentine's Day Beer and Wine Tour happening February 16th. For $160 per couple, tickets include: round-trip transportation, a tasting at the Riverhead Cider House, and the North Fork Brewing Company, plus gourmet cheeses and chocolates on the bus. Book online at liwinebus.com and come dressed for a cute couple’s photo! 7. ­Join Sparkling Pointe for their Annual Valentine’s Sparkling Wine & Cupcake Pairing. It will include a pairing of 3 miniature cupcakes by Sweet Fancy LI and 3 Sparkling Pointe wines. Dates are: Saturday & Sunday, February 8th & 9th from 11am to 5:30pm and Friday, February 14th from 11am to 4:30pm. 3-day advanced booking required, call 631.765.0200.

 

Loneliness


Maria DiGiorgio is a devoted wife and mother, an educator and designer. 
Visit her Etsy shop: LaPetiteFleurbyMaria, for beautiful, one-of-a-kind, hand
embellished floral picture frames.
     Loneliness is a word that conjures up many notions, most of which are sad or negative in nature. We may think of individuals who are without friends or family, sitting by themselves, almost invisible to those around them. When we think of someone as being lonely, we think of them as being socially awkward or uneasy. The reality may indeed fit the profile, but more often than not, it is not the case.
     Everyone, at certain times in life, may feel lonely. We’ve heard many say that, “Someone could be in a room filled with people, but still feel lonely.”  Loneliness comes from a place deep within ourselves, a place where we feel a disconnect from others. At the root of loneliness, lies a desire to be a part of something we feel is elusive; a craving for meaningful connections with other human beings. Loneliness can also stem from feelings of inadequacy and a sense that we do not “belong”. One must feel secure within oneself, in order to create and maintain significant bonds with others.
     Human beings are very complex individuals. The feelings we have and the experiences we go through help to shape the relationships we build with others and ourselves. Life can be challenging, for some more than others. The way in which we deal with these challenges directly affects our emotional reservoirs. We may feel so deeply that we deplete the resources we have in order to cope. Part of coping involves reaching out to others (friends, family, co-workers, etc.), in an effort to help sustain us through trying times. If we do not safeguard this reserve of emotions, we may fall short of asking for what we need: support, encouragement, reminders that, “This too shall pass.”
     It is so important to know that loneliness, like all other feelings, can be transient. It does not have to be permanent in our lives. Becoming aware of the reasons we feel lonely, and actively seeking means in which to address these issues, can have us feeling less isolated, almost instantly.  We need to reflect on our habits (the way in which we tend to process events in our lives) and then work to incorporate greater discussion with and participation from significant others, in our personal circle. By encouraging the process of inclusion, rather than remaining isolated with our feelings, we naturally bring about a sense of belonging. We are reminded that others are going through or have gone through, very similar situations, and have felt the same kind of pain and turmoil we may be feeling.
      The next time you find yourself feeling lonely, remember that you are not alone in this experience.  You can take greater control in overcoming obstacles to gain happiness, and the path to personal fulfillment.

 

NEW Year… NEW Favorite Tips!


Claudia Fenner is a writer, photographer and travel enthusiast from Dix Hills. Have any travel questions you would like answered? Email her at travelingclaudia@gmail.com. 
Happy Travels!

Hope that 2020 opens up some new and exciting travel horizons for you!

     I have a new favorite off-site parking company to recommend at JFK, as my other two former go-to’s have since closed. We now have been parking at SmartPark with great results!  Go to their website (smartparkparking.com) where you can see their rates, reserve your space (free) and join their loyalty club. Sometimes there are Groupons available, but if you book directly through their site, you receive a free day of parking for every seven you pay for.  Their coupons are right on the site too. Friendly attendants and frequent shuttles make this a stress-free way to begin your vacation at JFK.
     Hotels are always anxious for you to book your reservation directly on their website and they sweeten the deal by offering their, “Best Price Guarantee.” The major hotel chains will not only match a lower price if you track one down on another booking site, but also, will take off an additional 25% for finding the lower rate. All you have to do is locate the lower rate within 24 hours of making your reservation on the hotel site, and then fill out their easy on-line claim form. Make sure that when you compare rates they are the same type. If you had booked a refundable rate (usually more) and submit a nonrefundable (usually less) rate as the lower price, they won’t approve your claim. To view many rates at once, try kayak.com. They list over ten booking websites which makes comparing very easy.
     Buying travel insurance on a pre-paid trip such as a cruise, gives many travelers peace of mind in case the unexpected happens. However, before you spend extra on that expense, either go online or call the credit card company that you are charging the trip on. Some credit cards actually include travel insurance for free. There is usually a reimbursement limit and a specific list of situations that are covered, but for basic travel insurance, this could save you a lot of money. It’s worth the time inquiring about. 
    The big news is, that starting at the end of January 2020, Amex is adding trip cancellation and interruption insurance, trip delay insurance to the Amex Platinum, as well as a handful of other premium American Express cards. Check online at their site to see if your specific card is one of them. 

Happy 2020 and Happy Travels!

“Sometimes the road less traveled is less traveled for a reason.” – Jerry Seinfeld

 

What can I say? We love apple crumb pie!


Tiffany Cohen has been cooking since she was 12 years old, and has a blog called Whatcha Cooking Good 
Looking, which showcases her love for food and creating great memories with family and friends. Contact her at whatchacookinggoodlooking@gmail.com.

    When fall rolls around, I am just itching for Apple Pie. Apple Crumb Pie to be exact.  When we go apple picking in September/October, I make so many Apple Crumb Pies that by the time the holidays are here, I seriously cannot look at another. 
    This pie is the BEST for a few reasons. (1.) There’s no pie crust on top. I am not a pie crust fan. Instead, pile on the brown sugar butter topping please and leave the pie crust to the bottom. (2.) This recipe really has such simple ingredients: Apples, cinnamon, sugar, brown sugar, butter, flour, salt, and a frozen pie shell (which brings me to number three). (3.) You use a frozen pie shell. Can you beat that? No, because if you buy a good quality one, it’s delicious, and allows you to make a lot  in a little amount of time.
    So, this apple pie really speaks to me in a number of ways.  It’s super easy to make and the result is so outrageously good. All crumby and sweet on top with a delicious apple-cinnamon inside—exactly what my fall dreams are made of!
    P.S. serve warm with vanilla ice cream for droolworthy effects!

Ingredients
Prep Time: 20 mins  Cook Time: 60 mins  Total Time: 80 mins Yield: 8 
• 1 frozen deep dish pie shell, thawed (My favorite is Oronoque Orchards by Mrs. Smith’s)
• 1 cup flour
• 1 stick butter, softened
• 1/2 cup packed brown sugar
• 1/8 teaspoon salt
• 6 cups peeled and thin sliced apples (about 4-6), Gala apples are my favorite in this pie
• 1/2 cup sugar
• 1 1/4 teaspoons cinnamon
• Vanilla ice cream for serving (optional)

Instructions
    Preheat the oven to 425°. Line a baking sheet with tin foil (you’ll thank me later) and place the pie shell on top. Set aside.
    In a mixing bowl or your stand mixer, combine the flour, butter, brown sugar and salt. If you’re using a stand mixer, use the paddle attachment and mix on medium low. Watch the crumbs because they come together in one clump within the blink of an eye! When everything starts coming together, you’ll see crumbs form. If you don’t have a stand mixer, use a fork to create the crumbs. Smush down the butter and mix. Smush mix, until crumbs start to form. Then use your hands by delicately scooping up some of the mixture and letting it fall between your fingers, squeezing lightly before they fall. Keep this going until you have crumbs. Set the crumbs aside.
    Add the sliced apples to another mixing bowl (see Notes below for tips about cutting apples.) Add the cinnamon and sugar and mix until all the apples are coated. Don’t let the apples sit too long—it will create too much juice.
    Add the apples to the pie shell, arranging them so that there are no big holes or gaps between the apples (don’t let them hang off the edge).  
    Working in parts, place the crumbs on top of the apples and arrange so that the apples are covered and there are no holes. Do not press down on the crumbs. Cover the pie edges with a pie crust shield or tin foil. Bake in the oven for 10 minutes at 425°. Then, keeping the pie in the oven, lower the heat to 350° for 45-50 minutes, until the top is golden brown. If you see the crumbs browning too much too fast, place a sheet of tin foil right on top (don’t tuck it in, just tent it). 
    When the the pie comes out of the oven, immediately and carefully remove the pie crust shield or tin foil. Otherwise, it will stick to the pie. Let the pie sit for a little bit before serving.  Serve with vanilla ice cream (optional). Enjoy!

NOTES
Cutting the Apples: I take the apple and hold it upright to make a square around the core, cutting off big chunks of the apple. Then I take those chunks and make slices, maybe about a 1/4 – 1/2 inch thick. 
Reheating Note: If you cut into the pie while its still hot, the juices will come running out and the pie won’t be as good. Wait for the pie to cool.  
Additionally, you can always turn the oven back on when you’re ready to serve and heat on a 350° oven for about 10 minutes until the pie is warm.