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Spring Into Design

Natalie Weinstein is President of Natalie Weinstein Design Associates, The Natalie Weinstein Home Decorating Club and Uniquely Natalie, a quality consignment 
boutique. For inquiries call: 631-862-6198.

If any season can be associated with a definite desire to decorate, it has to be spring! The term “spring cleaning,” dating back to before the turn of the century, inspired many feelings. It meant untold back breaking hours of work beating rugs, white washing woodwork, polishing silver and cleaning the house from top to bottom. But with it came the great satisfaction of cleanliness, orderliness and the newness of spring. 
    Our human desire to renew– as the earth does– translates into spring, thus becoming the busiest design season of the year. In truth, if people wanted to be ready for spring, they would prepare in the winter; however, most don’t think ahead until there is strong evidence of the season changing. Frustration abounds when shoppers find they must wait for furnishings to be delivered; hence, impulse buying ensues. Immediate purchases may not be the best long-range decision, however it occurs more often than not. Furthermore, starting with an inappropriate purchase (wrong color, scale or style) may put you on a one-way street to continued misdirection. Even now you can still plan ahead. Here are some tips to help: 
7 Steps to Spring Redecorating
•    Do a real clean-up and discard.  Organize closets, clean up clutter and simplify your surroundings. This will not only provide a sense of satisfaction, but will force you to make intelligent decisions about items you need or want. Now, you can see which furnishings can stay and look well with just a “face-lift”.
•    Make a plan in writing. Using graph paper and a ruler, make a plan of the room as well as the pieces of furniture you’d like to keep. Moving furniture on paper saves a lot of wear and tear on your back and enables you to see many options. (We have furniture templates available to help you get started; just contact us  631-862-6198)
•    Now, rearrange the furniture. Look at the furniture carefully; bearing in mind those pieces which may need re-upholstery, as well as necessary additional furniture. Try to visualize the end result.
•    Don’t forget your plan when you shop, but be flexible. If you find something you really like and your plan can be modified- buy it. If, however, your purchase will cause havoc with what exists or your budget- wait. Diligence and patience go a long way in decorating.
•    If you’re on a limited budget; painting, repairing and slipcovering can make  amazing changes to existing rooms. If you are handy and can do some or all of the labor yourself, you can stretch your money even further. If you’re hiring labor, get references, and see their work beforehand.
•    Remember, your front door area, porch and walkway can make the entry to your home springlike and colorful just by adding flower pots of lovely annuals. Vases of fresh flowers in the home can brighten every room, as well.
•    When you have a challenging design project which is beyond you, seek professional advice. It will save you time and money in the long run and will allow you to enjoy the results without the additional stress to your already busy life.

So get to it, get started, and happy spring! Ask us about our special spring consultations!

 

Mother’s Day Brunch

Katherine Andrianas

Danfords
25 East Broadway, Port Jefferson
631.928.5200
    
Danfords lets you enjoy beautiful views of the Port Jefferson harbor. Their extensive Mother’s Day menu consists of an array of cuisines like 
salads, seafood and delectable desserts. At just $59.95 per adult 
and $24.95 for children ages 4-12,
it’s a wonderful place to 
spend the day.

Navy Beach
16 Navy Road, Montauk
631-668-6868    
This Mother’s Day, why not have 
double the fun with a scenic drive and brunch built into one outing? Make 
it a day trip and celebrate at Navy Beach, one of the most popular spots in Montauk. The family-friendly Navy Beach will be offering a special, three course, prix fixe lunch menu from 11:30AM-4:00PM. For an added bonus, mother’s will receive a complimentary bloody Mary or mimosa with their meal.

The Halyard 
58775 County Rd 48, Greenport
(631) 477-0666
    
From 10AM-3PM this Mother’s Day, the Halyard will be hosting a brunch buffet. Featuring an omelette and 
carving station, they’ll have eggs benedict, country ham, mac and cheese, homemade sausage, bacon, hash browns and more. On the menu will also be homemade bakery items: scones, molasses nut bread and 
biscuits. At $35 per adult and $18 for kids 12 and under, it’s dining fit for the entire family. 

The Oar
3543, 264 West Ave, Patchogue
(631) 654-8266
    
This nautical-themed, riverfront restaurant provides the ideal setting for celebrating the most special ladies in your life. Starting at 11:00AM, they’ll have a Mother’s Day brunch where they’ll be serving a variety of mouthwatering dishes. They’ll also have a build your own mimosa bar and build your own botanical where you can choose from prosecco, juice and soda to create the perfect drink.

The View
3 Consuelo Place, Oakdale
631.589.2694
    
The View will have a special Mother’s Day a la carte menu which includes an array of delicious dishes. On their list of appetizers: tuna tartare, mussels, stuffed clams and Thai calamari. For entrees they’ll have seared sea scallops, lobster pasta, surf and turf or for non-seafood lovers, braised short ribs, herb roasted chicken breast and Bolognese.

Windows 
on the Lake
235 Lake Shore Road, 
Lake Ronkonkoma (631) 737-0088
    
The Windows on the Lake Mother’s Day menu will feature a bit of everything. Besides offering unlimited wine and mimosas, there will be a pasta and carving station, artisanal cheese display, made to order omelettes, freshly carved fruit and much more. Then, for dessert, they’ll even have an ice cream bar and Belgian waffle station on top of delicious cookies, cannoli’s, apple pie crisps and cake.

 

 

Mother’s Day…It’s all about love.

Dr. Gold, Ph.D, LMHC, Licensed and Board Certified Clinical MentalHealth Counselor, with a Ph.D in psychology, specializes in relationships and integrating traditional methods with holistic ones. She is a Life Coach, Workshop Leader, Lecturer, and published Author. Please contact her at drgold6@optimum.net.

Hello again, Friends. Our topic is Mother’s Day, which will be here  before we know it. First, a bit of history… 
    On May 8, 1914, The U.S. Congress passed a law designating the second Sunday in May as Mother’s Day. President Wilson issued a proclamation where American citizens show the flag in honor of those mothers whose sons had perished in war.  In 1934, President Franklin D. Roosevelt approved a stamp commemorating the holiday.
    Mother’s Day is one of the most commercially successful occasions, and generates a significant portion of the US, annual revenue in retail. It’s also the most popular day of the year to dine at a restaurant, splurge on jewelry and flowers or pampering gifts, such as spa treatments and alike.  
    I was very fortunate to have had a supportive and strong mother. Though she is no longer with us, I cherish the warm memories. I hope that you were equally fortunate, although I know not all of you were.  Your feelings about your mother might not be as warm and fuzzy as mine. And perhaps, justifiably so. If that is the case, please contemplate the truism of this passage from the bible: "Forgive and you will be forgiven.  Do not forgive and you will not be forgiven.”
    You might now be a mother yourself (as am I).  If so, ask yourself this: “Have I been the perfect mother?” Of course you have not been, nor have I. We’ve all made mistakes with our children.
    Years ago, psychologist Karen Horney(hor-nye), coined the term “Good enough mother.” Meaning: we are not perfect, but if we meant well and did the best we could, we were a good enough mother.
 So think back and perhaps concentrate on the good things that your mother did give you, rather than dwell on the bad. Even if you had an absent or dysfunctional relationship, your biological mother did give you one priceless thing: Life. You would not be here if not for her.  Let’s honor that.
     I find Mother’s Day a perfect time to apologize to our children for the mistakes we might have made in the past. So, let us honor Mothers or the maternal figures in our life. If you do not have a mother, it would be nice to honor  an older woman whom you admire. Perhaps send her a card or deliver a small gift.  Or, surprise her by paying a visit and spending quality time with her.
    Have a wonderful Mother’s Day.  It’s all about love. God bless you now and always- Dr. Phyllis-Terri. 

 

Out on the Vine

Katherine Andrianas

Long Island is home to some of the best vineyards around. Offering tons of events, live entertainment, tastings and tours, there is always something fun going on. So, if you’re looking for a full day’s worth of activities, check out what our favorite vineyards have planned!

 

MARTHA CLARA
6025 Sound Ave., Riverhead
2U In Concert
Saturday, April 27th  7:30PM-9:30PM
    
Enjoy an unforgettable night filled with good music and some of the best wine. At just $30 per perso­n for standing room and $40 for seating, each ticket includes a glass of wine. Doors open at 7:00PM and the concert begins at 7:30PM.

PALMER VINEYARD
5120 Sound Ave., Riverhead
Welcome to the Weekend
Every Friday starting in May
All-day oyster bar and fire pit
Live music from 4:00PM-8:00PM
Every Saturday 
All-day food truck                Live music from 1:00PM-5:00PM

PINDAR VINEYARD
37645 Main Road (Route 25), Peconic
Spring Winery Tours
Sat, Apr 6th- Sat, May 18th
2:00PM-3:00PM  
    
Find out how your favorite wine is made by going 
behind the scenes into the barrel and tank rooms of Pindar Vineyard. At $20 per person, enjoy a 
select tasting of five wines after a tour of the
production facility. 

 

RAPHAEL
39390 NY-25, Peconic
The Second Hands
Sunday, April 14th all day
    
This folk and Indie acoustic duo is comprised of 
songwriters Geoff Schroeder and Laura Hoch. With many songs about love and relationships, they explore personal experiences that reflect basic human emotion.

SANNINO VINEYARD
1375 Peconic Ln., Peconic
Wine & Food Pairing
Saturday April 13th 6:00PM-7:30PM
    
Pairing certain wines with the right food can be a 
challenge. That’s why for just $55 per person, this hour and a half class will teach you how different 
flavors interact with various types of wine.

SPARKLING POINTE
39750 County Road 48, Southold
Sparkling Wine & 
French Macaron Pairing 
Saturday, April 20th Price: $27.00 – $30.00
    
Includes three French Macarons paired with a flight of three sparkling wines. A three-day 
advanced booking is required.

 

Detox Your Mind

Dr. Dawn Siglain is a compassionate Naturopathic Doctor, Licensed Acupuncturist, & Reiki Practitioner who believes in the body’s innate 
ability to heal itself when treated 
with nature and understanding.
Any questions please reach out: 
drdawn@innersourcehealth.com.  
Follow me IG: @drdawnnd & www.facebook.com/drdawnnd

    Your mind is working for you every second of every day – even while you’re sleeping.  In fact, one of the major ways we detox our brain is via the glymphatic system  (yes it starts with a ‘G’).  The glymphatic system is the innate process that removes toxins from our brain during our sleep and gives you that refreshed feeling after a good night’s slumber.  During deep sleep, there is a natural expansion and contraction of the brain’s extracellular space which promotes waste clearance for the central nervous system.  How cool is that?
    There’s a variety of ways that you can detox your mind.  We have a new thought nearly every second of the day totaling around 70,000 thoughts a day.  Thoughts are automatic, subtle and can even come in telegraphic form; they come before your feelings.  I can’t stress this enough, so it’s worth repeating: YOUR THOUGHTS COME FIRST and then your feelings follow.   This is why it’s so important to slow down in life to truly uncover your self-talk in order to have an understanding of your feelings.  
    Taking time to reflect after a long day is a good practice to start if you are not already doing so.  This mindful practice will be particularly useful during times of stress because it helps you remember to think through a situation before reacting.  Meditation helps this process and can also help to increase focus by calming down distracting thoughts.  Deep breathing supports this aspect of your parasympathetic nervous system which helps you to rest.  Go ahead, take 10 deep breaths right now… how do you feel?
    In order to get thoughts out of your head, try doing a mental purge by writing it down.  This is especially useful for someone who wakes during the night thinking about things to do the following day.  Simply leave a pen and notepad next to your bed, and each night list everything you need to do the following day – this way your brain doesn’t keep thinking about it!  
    Re-arranging your living space or work space can be a mood booster too.  We are continually and subconsciously triggering negative or stagnant associations with our surroundings.  Give your brain a new way to process your surroundings with a fresh look!
    To learn more about Naturopathic Medicine call 631.421.1848 for a free 15 minute consultation with Dr. Dawn, or email: drdawn@innersourcehealth.com

 

Sustainable Fashion

Rachael Severino is a senior at Sachem North High School in Sachem School District. She has penned short stories, poetry and is developing an impressive body of work. 

    The recent UN environmental report stating that there are twelve years left to preserve the Earth has inspired people to look for new ways to participate in healing the planet. Sustainable fashion has made its name as the most glamorous step in the right direction. 
    People dispose of poorly made outfits at the end of every season, but are quick to replace these pieces with similarly made products. Popular stores sell cheap fabrics with weak stitching to ensure that sales will be high every season. However, once discarded, roughly 13.1 million tons of clothing, from the US alone, will end up in third-world countries or landfills. 
    This clothing, or “fast fashion,” is typically made in developing countries’ factories, where children are working in poor conditions. Sustainable fashion works to prevent these dangerous child-labor factories. 
    Sustainable fashion brands create outfits in worker-friendly factories, where seamstresses are well paid and operate in a safe environment.  The clothing is made from completely natural textiles like organic cotton, hemp, linen, and silk. Deadstock fabric, or excess fabric from larger companies, is also popular. The use of deadstock helps ensure the textile does not end up in the environment, but is rather treated (dyed, textured, etc…) then sewn into fabulous pieces.
    The beauty of sustainable fashion is the specialness. Because of how much fabric is acquired, many pieces are one of a kind, or limited edition. The worry of showing up to a party or meeting in the same dress is practically non-existent when wearing sustainable brands. Once the fabric is gone, the piece is discontinued and a new item will be introduced. Everything one owns from a sustainable brand will be unique. 
    A concern of the sustainable movement is the price. Major brands in the sustainable fashion world sell dresses for roughly three hundred dollars; hand knit wool sweaters can reach the same price. However, each item is hand-made and crafted with great care, guaranteeing a long lifespan for each piece. The price matches the quality; nonetheless, there are cheaper sustainable brands for people will a smaller budget. 
    People all over the world have taken an interest in sustainable fashion but, one Long Island woman in particular has taken action against harmful fast-fashion. The creator of Indigo Apparel, Jackii Ramis, launched a sustainable brand in 2013. Ramis’ line is wearable, in that her pieces are for everyday wear and unique, in that she hand dyes all her fabric, ensuring her pieces are truly one of a kind. Her clothing is all high-quality athleisure. 
    Indigo Apparel is inexpensive compared to many other sustainable brands, reaching all Long Islanders. Her clothing is comfortable and cool, but also hand-made and long lasting. Like Ramis, there are several smaller sustainable stores that produce clothing for everyday wear and are sold at reasonable prices. 
    There are brands to suit all tastes and events, providing relaxed outfits to elegant evening-wear. As sustainable fashion rises in popularity, the Earth can begin to heal.

 

Early Spring Gardening!

In the last 43 years 
VanBourgondien Nursery has expanded into a year-round full service Garden Center. Our goal is to provide you with the highest quality plants to ensure your gardening success
vanbnursery@gmail.com

Spring Cleaning, Pruning and Feedings in the Garden!

We have all heard of a good spring cleaning inside our homes, but this is also true for spring in the garden!

In flower beds, spring clean-up involves cutting back winter-killed foliage and flower stems on those perennials, bulbs, shrubs and trees that were not cut in the fall. This should be done in early spring as soon as the ground has thawed and before growth begins. Get out to rake those leaves and debris from your garden beds.
    Remove last year's dead foliage from your hostas, daylilies, iris, and peonies. In fact, many perennials fare better during winter if they’re pruned or cleaned in early spring rather than the fall. These include butterfly weeds, coral bells, tickseeds, artemisias, asters, campanulas, cardinal flower and Russian sage. Cut back ornamental grass and other perennials you left standing in the garden through the winter.                
    PRUNING AND CLEANING                  TREES AND SHRUBS 
    
    When trees grow too close together, leaves and branches die as they compete for sunlight and airflow. Pruning helps to maximize flowering and produce bountiful fruit. On a mild, dry day, it helps plants develop into sound structures without over-stressing their limbs. When pruning, first prune out dead and diseased branches; this is called thinning. Then, remove the overgrown and smaller branches to increase light and air at the crown of the tree. Cut branches at the node: the point at which one branch or twig attaches to another.
    Trees and shrubs that should be pruned in early spring include narrow-leaved evergreens (conifers), like arborvitae, juniper, pine and yew. Pruning improves their shape, keeps them in bounds, induces bushy growth, and thins out unwanted branches. 
    Broad-leaved evergreens grown primarily for foliage and summer-flowering shrubs, vines, etc., that should be pruned are: butterfly bush, crape myrtle, perennial hibiscus, rose of Sharon and trumpet vine (not old fashioned hydrangea).
    Prune bush roses (hybrid teas, floribundas, grandifloras and miniatures) which help repair winter damage, shape plants to induce flower-bearing shoots. This type of rose blooms on new growth. Climbing roses should only have winter-killed parts removed at this time; in most types, blooms develop on shoots arising from old wood. Any cane that has lived through the winter is a potential source of flowers, and therefore precious.
    If a plant flowers in the spring, it can be pruned immediately after it has finished blooming for the season. Plants that bloom in the early spring set their flower buds in the fall. Winter or early spring pruning of these plants can reduce the amount of spring blooms they would produce.
    Think twice, cut once, and watch carefully. Always disinfect your pruning shears before moving from one plant to another to avoid spreading any disease amongst plants. A quick dip in rubbing alcohol works well as a disinfectant. Also, make sure your pruning shears are sharpened– a nice clean cut is always preferred.

 

Outdoor Living Spaces

Natalie Weinstein is President of Natalie Weinstein Design Associates, The Natalie Weinstein Home Decorating Club and Uniquely Natalie, a quality consignment boutique. Enjoy Natalie’s Long
Island Focus featured in House Magazine or call: 631-862-6198.

So – with winter hopefully behind us, spring is the time to think of your outdoor property as an extension of your living space.  Plan in the spring and you will ensure a great summer getaway within your own home.  

Here are some ideas to think about:

• Outdoor fireplaces and fire pits have become very popular for those chilly nights to extend the outdoor entertaining season.

• Pergolas define spaces and can be surrounded by seasonal foliage to create a destination in an area not on your deck or patio.

• If you use weatherproof fabric on furniture for your patio and deck that reminds you of your comfortable indoor seating, and use planters or potted plants to define the space, you will have a second den outdoors!

• If you need privacy, think of creative ways to screen your space from neighbors’ view with lattice, natural plantings, or even outdoor fabric curtaining.

• Add a hot tub for relaxing and entertaining, especially if you would like a water feature that is not a full-size pool.

• On the subject of water features, think of adding an area with a waterfall or a fountain for great visual effects.

• Create ambiance with proper lighting for enjoyment and function all through the night (light paths, focal points and seating areas).

• Create shady areas under umbrellas, awnings (retractable can be a consideration) and in gazebos or other structures.

• Use appropriate electrical wiring to play soft backyard music or guest karaoke. (Invite the neighbors so they won’t complain).  
• Create focal points for socializing with seating, ex: sofa areas, dining areas, built in deck seating or bar stools around the kitchen area (everyone loves to gather ‘round the chef).

• Create eye appeal with colorful plantings and planters that flower throughout the summer season or use perennial greenery which is a design staple.

• Use outdoor area rugs to define space and create an outdoor “room”.

And, if you’re lucky enough to have the space and funds, build your own pool house! Here's one which includes a full kitchen and bath, fireplace, T.V. and comfortable poolside seating. It is an all year ‘round “destination” hang out room that adds a new dimension to a stay at home getaway!

 

Healthy, Delicious & Pretty

Marie Torio is a NY based photographer 
specializing in food, restaurant, interior &
editorial. Her website where she can be reached www.photosbymarietorio.com 
and her Instagram photosbymarietorio 

Hello friends, I made it a goal this year to be better at having a well-rounded breakfast in the morning. Amongst the rush of the mornings, I sometimes find myself skipping the most important meal of the day. It just isn’t a good start to my day. I did some research and tried different recipes to give me the best kick start to my day. They are simple, delicious and enough to photograph, so here goes… 
    Chia pudding:  Made with almond milk (or any milk you’d like), chia seeds, mixed berries and sliced almonds. This is perfect to make ahead if you know that your mornings will be slammed and on the go. It’s refreshing, well-rounded and will leave you feeling satisfied. Spring is here and I find this breakfast recipe perfect for warmer days because its light and fulfilling. All you need to do is grab that chia pudding mason jar, throw some berries and almonds (OR whatever toppings you desire) and go! 
    Avocado and egg toast: This breakfast does require some time, whether it’s on the weekend or mornings that are less hectic, this is my go to. The flavor profile of this recipe is just so tasty– a crunchy whole grain English muffin, a butter-like mashed avocado, silky egg and crushed red pepper hits all the notes of the palate. Again, there are endless avocado toast combinations that you can research that fit your own needs and taste buds. I suggest having a version of avocado toast on your weekly breakfast line up.
    Almond butter, chia banana oatmeal: This is a hearty, healthy breakfast especially when you crave something comforting and warm in your tummy. Who says oatmeal must be boring? The nutritious pairing of banana, chia and almond butter is a guilt-free meal.  There are many oatmeal recipes that you can throw in your crockpot while you get ready the day of or the night before, and have a batch  made for the next morning.  
    As you research and try recipes, it’s important to look for healthy options that fit your lifestyle and needs. There’s plenty online content that teaches how to prepare different meals. I am learning to be more mindful about my breakfast and not set my day off on the wrong foot. 
    I encourage you to try new healthy recipes (especially meals that you may struggle with on a day-to-day). Challenge yourself and beat that hump. You will be proud of what you can prepare, accomplish and if you’re up to it…photograph!! I’d love to see what you come up with. Happy eating and happy shooting!! 

 

New Season, Old Traditions

Denise Gianatasio is a Northport Village resident and freelance writer. 
She is a licenced agent at Signature Premier Properties in Northport. Denise enjoys cooking, sharing her recipes and family stories to inspire a sense of home with her readers. Please feel free to contact her for any advice you may need at dishinwithdenise@yahoo.com.

    Wow, Sring is finally here and yes it’s time for Easter!  Easter–along with spring– brings a new outlook and joyful feelings; a real sense of renewal and rebirth. Not only does the weather become mild, but the grass turns green, birds chirp early morning, flowers come back anew and fresh, and trees begin to display their new leaves and glorious buds. For us, it’s a time for new beginnings and excitement for that special place…the great outdoors!
    With Easter approaching, I have readied my traditional recipes for our family Easter dinner. I found this recipe in an article back in the early 80’s for a traditional Easter Bread; over 30 years later, the making of these Easter breads has become my tradition as well. After baking and sprinkling with colored non-pareils, I wrap them up in clear cellophane with Easter colored ribbons and two colored Easter eggs baked on the breads and braided. These breads are then placed at my table and wrapped for each person’s place setting (how festive they make the table!). I then gift out many to dear friends and neighbors (a labor of love). The torch was somehow passed on about 20 years ago to my son, Ryan: who makes time to make about 20 loaves before Easter. He will continue this tradition and pass it on down. 
    This recipe is one of my most treasured finds. Start a tradition like this one and you will discover the hidden value that making, giving and receiving brings to all. In case you are wondering about the rest of our traditional Easter menu, with a variation here or there, this is pretty much it:
• Antipasto (with a good grilled bread for dipping.)
• Pasta: Either a ravioli with a fresh tomato marinara or a mixture o­f green (spinach) and white angel hair tossed with a carbonara sauce.
• Lamb
• Asparagus polonaise
• Scalloped potatoes & carrots­
• A delicious homemade carrot cake for dessert
• My Grandmother’s recipe for “Pastiera Di Grano” or
• Easter Grain Pie (pastry crust, ricotta cheese filled and lattice covered, with fresh orange rind and wheat berry, sprinkled with confectioner’s sugar.)
    Don't forget the bread! If you can't find time to bake, be sure to purchase some at your local bakery. It will add a special touch to your Easter table. Have a Happy, Blessed Easter and enjoy the special time with your loved ones! — XO Denise (Dishin’ with Denise)

 

Easter Bread

1 cup sugar
3 teaspoons baking powder
6 cups all-purpose flour
5 eggs, lightly beaten
¼ lb salted butter, melted
1 cup milk
1 teaspoon vanilla extract 
6-12 raw, colored eggs
Egg whites, beaten (for wash)
Nonpareils

1) In a large bowl, combine sugar, baking powder and flour
2) Make a well in the center of the dry ingredients
3) Stir together eggs and melted butter; pour into center of dry ingredients
4) Add milk and vanilla extract and work mixture into a dough
5) Roll dough into a long log. Cut into 6 equal portions. Using one portion at a time, roll into long rope and braid or criss-cross over each other, placing 1 or 2 eggs into loop form of dough.
6) Brush breads with beaten egg wash and sprinkle with non-pareils
7) Place on parchment lined baking sheet and bake at 350 degrees for 25-30 minutes or until bread is golden (makes 6 breads)

 

The Mirror Has Two Faces

Maria DiGiorgio is a lifelong New Yorker, who currently resides in Commack, 
with her family.  She is a devoted wife and mother, an educator and designer.  

“We are looking inward, within our soul and our psyche.”

     It is amazing, isn’t it, that we can view ourselves in a mirror one way, but see ourselves through our own eyes in another?  Our perception of self is often different than the perception others have of us, and of the reflection we see when we glance in a mirror.  The physical image belies the spiritual and emotional presence we can never separate ourselves from.  When we look into a mirror, we not only see the physical personification of ourselves, but the deeper image of the person we are beneath.   We are looking inward, within our soul and our psyche.  This dimension cannot be seen, except through perception.  It is this facet that can leave us feeling, at times, perplexed and conflicted.   
     Our perception of self begins to form at a very tender age.  Through interaction with those closest to us, as well as life circumstances and the world, at large, we start to cultivate a set of beliefs about ourselves.  These beliefs, both positive and negative, become inextricably woven into the fabric of our lives.  This combination of factors works to shape the image we have of ourselves, and therefore, what and whom we see, each day, when we gaze at our reflection.  As such, we may struggle with self-acceptance or feelings of inadequacy.  If we have been fortunate enough to receive an abundance of positive reinforcement along the way, we may embrace the image we see before us, and celebrate the person we believe ourselves to be.
     It is important to be aware of this phenomenon, and to know and understand that our perception of self is subject to change.  It is fluid, just as our moods are.  Situations, encounters and occurrences can and will dictate the way in which we grow personally, develop and alter our self-perceptions.  We can greatly influence the way we feel about ourselves, by making a conscious choice to view ourselves in a positive and self-affirming light.  No one is perfect (another misperception), but we can strive to be our very best selves.  Thereby, reconciling the image we, and others “see” with the reality of who we are, will bring us greater peace and joy in the process.